We live in an era where many are so focused on perfecting that IG (Instagram) pose, but don’t pay much attention to develop their EQ (emotional intelligence). “Do I look good, what will my audience think and say, should I pout or use a photo in black and white to look more professional?”.
We are often asked about our careers, our relationships, our personal life and our successes, but not often the only important question: are we happy?!
Happiness is something we find within ourselves and something that only we can create. No one can do that for you. So why are we so focused on what others may think or say? Why do we first think about the opinions of others before posting something? If you like wine, and want to post a picture with your feet up and enjoying a glass of wine after a long day or week, do it! If you love icecream at 9 pm whilst watching your favorite TV show, and feel that you want to share it, do it! If you are starting your journey to a healthier and fitter you, but don’t look like a size 4 model, yet you managed to shed 2kgs and feel so proud of yourself for doing it, then share it!!! Be REAL. Be YOU. Tell your story, because you may just inspire someone else with it!
Focus less on the opinions of others and what society dictates. Use that time to rather work on yourself. Work on becoming the best version of YOU! Grow as a person. Push yourself beyond the boundaries that you have set for yourself. The world needs people with higher emotional intelligence, not more likes on an IG post.
Lastly… your vibe attracts your tribe, but also vice versa. Pay attention to whom you surround yourself with. If you find yourself as the oldest and wisest person in your circle, I’d recommend you find a new circle. If you hang out with a certain crowd who are the “in-thing” so that you are seen “in the right circles”, I would suggest you take a minute to assess whether that really reflects who you are as a person. People will have more respect for you being a “loner” and being YOU, than for hanging around with the “cool kids” just for your public image.
Some food for thought: “A meaningful life is not being rich, being popular, or being perfect. It’s about being real, being humble, being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others.”